I think you're cool as heck and I seriously wish I could hug you whenever you're sad. You're very talented and a fun person in general.
I think you're an amazing person all around. You have good values and your blog brings some serious variety into my dash, which I love. I gotta say though, you know a lot things for a 15 y/o girl that I don't even understand completely.
to be honest, you are one of the very few people I have 0 problems with. Most people have small things that I disagree with, or just don't like. I really have not found anything like that with you.
give it time, seems like someone always finds something
I feel that you overthink about me.
Go on ANON and tell me what you think of me. I do not want to know who it is, at all. Don’t tell me who it is, don’t give me hints, don’t say your screen name. Tell me exactly what you think of me. Don’t sugarcoat things. Don’t lie. If you hate me, tell me why. Tell me what I’m doing wrong. If you like me, tell me why. Tell me exactly what you think of me.
maybe i’ll just stop talking
i almost forgot how much i hate arguing in the first place
im done arguing with cis ppl about my discrimination
tbh after being oppressed for an extremely long time and being harassed, injured, murdered, fired, and even divorced just because we’re trans*, we probably deserve to shit on people and take out all that anger on cis people as a whole but no we’re forced to just let the jokes about us happen because if we make a disparaging post about them we’re flooded with hate
Why would you take your anger out on cis people as a whole? Select individuals who identify as cis mistreat you and you think making fun of that group of people on a social networking website is going to accomplish what exactly? Nobody deserves to be mean to anybody, even if you’re treated poorly. You don’t combat hate with hate.
By the way, as a general rule of thumb, if you feel the only way to vent your anger is to take it out on someone else, you should probably starting seeing a therapist.
yes because im gonna be a pushover to the four or five people who called me tranny and faggot. im just gonna say “hey stop it” and they’ll stop. im definitely gonna be nice to the person who threatened to slit my throat. yes.
i do see a therapist btw
What you said was that you “deserve to shit on people and take out all that anger on cis people as a whole,” not a specific four or five people. Standing up for yourself is completely different than unidirectional attacks on a group of people because they share the same identity as the people who wronged you.
despite what you see on tumblr, the number of people being accepting of trans* people is incredibly small. more people than not view trans* people negatively, and even people in the LGBT community, the one where people are supposed to come together and unite, view trans* people in a negative fashion. this isnt isolated incidents. i have seen time and time again cis people shitting on trans* people, in person, and on the internet. its extremely common. it’s not just a specific four or five people. its a vast number of people. when someone gives me shit irl, you bet i get mad, be rude to them, and yell at them. because what they experience when i do that is an extremely tiny fraction of what trans* people feel when cis people do it to them.
Of course, you should definitely stand up for yourself when people mistreat you. I’m not arguing against that, I’m all for it. What I’m against is the blanket hate against cis people (all people, but cis people in this particular case) because you get mistreated by people who identify as cis. Regardless of how your anger has distorted the situation, the reality is not that cis people are bullying you, but rather that a bunch of people who are cis are bullying you, and it’s important that you make that distinction.
It’s no different than the racist who says, “I hate black people!” He doesn’t hate any black people in particular most likely, just black people in general. Don’t hate cis people, hate those particular cis people, or better, don’t because love makes the world a better place anyway. But whatever you do, stop acting like the amorphous group of people is to blame. After all, you hate that people act the same way towards trans* people, don’t you?
im gonna give this one last go to try and explain why its nowhere close to each other. please carefully read what im saying.
this is a map that was updated last month showing and plotting exactly all the reported deaths of trans* people since january 2008. in cases where more than one death happened at a location, only one death is shown, so the numbers are even less represented.
when people make threats like these, they’re often serious. when they harass, theyre serious. a cis person telling someone that theyre a tranny or that they should die or that they’ll be killed is much different than when the reverse happens. cis people are so privileged in that they dont face constant fear of retaliation and harassment and death threats just because theyre cis. they can brush it off easily when a trans* person says it. when they say it to trans* people, there’s every reason to be scared. the hate one group gives to another is NOWHERE near comparable.
this isnt one cis individual, or ten, or a hundred. it’s numerous. this has been happening for a long time. Of course not every cis person does this. But if the majority do, I think I should be able to vent my anger. love only makes the world a better place if trans*phobic people dont hold a grip of fear over people who, in many parts of the world, cant live their life without being afraid that they’ll be the next on a statistics list.
i get it. you dont hate trans* people. you respect them. thats awesome! youre not in a majority who think that, so sincerely good on you. but realize that when i make generalizations, they dont target everyone; they target the majority warranting the generalization in the first place. if a cis person is really offended when i vent my anger about them, they should realize that that they feel is literally incomparable to what trans* people feel when it happens to them. its hard to understand if youre cis, after all.
im a bit out of it and tired so if you still disagree with me on this, i dont know what else i can say. we just have to stop the conversation with each other and not drag it out longer than it needs to be. i can at least be glad youre more civil about this than others who have reblogged/sent me asks about it.